When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned
Death was never in our plans. Loss. Pain. Fear. Anxiety. None of those were in our plans.
A lot happens in life that we don’t plan. The grief journey is hugely about adjusting to things that weren’t planned.
At first, we are rather awkward about adjusting. We are like toddlers who can’t quite get that walking thing down. Our knees buckle. We crash. We cry.
We survive, though. We learn to walk with holes in our hearts. Sometimes, we even thrive. Sometimes, we become better at navigating all sorts of losses because we learn we can get through them.
I was surprised in 2021 when I navigated a loss better than expected. My loss did not involve a death but a relationship situation that did not go as I had planned. And it was devastating.
God pulled me through it, and 2022 turned out to be a pretty doggone good year. Plus, there was some shift in that situation in September, and I’m happy to report that things are looking up on that front.
On the other hand, I did not do a good job of staying in touch with you, my reader friends.
I was able to get a new website built early in the year (more about this below), but my health and certain responsibilities got in the way of using it fully to serve you and other readers.
In other words, things did not go as planned.
We have choices when things don’t go as planned. There’s typically a period of mourning. Of grief. We could run from our emotions, but it is healthy to acknowledge our losses and give ourselves that season.
We then have another choice. Do we stay where grief found us?
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